The is the second of 4 weeks in our journey led by Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. Last week we learned the first agreement: Be Impeccable with your Word. This week we are pleased to share with you a lesson that we so aptly have called…The Valentine’s Day Special. We hope you find it helpful. 😉
Let’s get straight to the point: “Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally.”
“If I see you on the street and I say, ‘Hey, you are so stupid,’ without knowing you, it’s not about you; it’s about me. If you take it personally, then perhaps you believe you are stupid. Maybe you think to yourself, ‘How does he know? Is he clairvoyant, or can everybody see how stupid I am?”
“You take it personally because you agree with whatever is being said.” (WOWZERS…a truth bell is ringing clashing in my ears right now).
“Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during domestication” (a.k.a upbringing/education).
“If someone gives you an opinion and says ‘Hey, you look so fat,’ don’t take it personally, because the truth is that this person is dealing with his or her own feelings, beliefs, and opinions. That person tried to send poison to you and if you take it personally, then you take that poison and it becomes yours.”
“You have eaten all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage” (Ho-ly crap, what…a…trap)!
“Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore, you don’t need to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally.” (I like this because it tells me that I do not need to ‘make real’ everything that I think, especially when those thoughts are not ‘feel good’ thoughts).
“As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won’t need to place your trust in what others do or say. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices.
You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you.”
“When you truly understand this, and refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others.” (Sigh…thanks Mr. Ruiz)!
This Thursday the first thing I’m going to practice is to hear my own loving thoughts. I will continue to listen to these thoughts so that I can extend my love throughout the day to anyone, anywhere, no matter what is being thrown my way. What are you planning to do for yourself on Valentine’s Day?
You can get the full copy (and see other books by Don Miguel Ruiz) at http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=the+four+agreements
Tiffany Manchester assists athletes, artists, and other women who want to ‘fear less’ and ‘create more’ wealth, health, and happiness in their lives. Connect with Tiffany ~ here ~ to sign up for a free strategy session!